Carly Heitlinger’s Meditation Journey.

Today’s guest poster needs no introduction… it’s Carly! I am pretty sure a lot of you read both of our blogs, but if you don’t, definitely head over and check out hers. Carly has had an amazing year of wellness and has been a big inspiration to me in my own journey – establishing a fitness routine she loves, and even hitting 100 straight days of meditation. I reached out to her to ask her to share her personal journey with us and was thrilled when she said yes. Read on to hear how meditation has helped her. Also, Carly, Andy is my meditation crush too… I guess we will have to share him. Anyway, a big thanks to Carly for sharing her story with us – I hope you enjoy reading it as much as I did!

I just want to start this by saying I’m no meditation expert. But I love it. Since starting my practice about nine months ago, it has significantly changed my life. I can’t sing the praises of meditation enough; in fact, I tend to tell everyone I meet that they should start meditating too. I wish I had started my meditation journey as a child because it’s such a fundamental part of healthy living.

I read this post by Andy (my meditation crush 😉, any Headspace users will probably agree!) about how meditation is going to be the new “running.” We know about how exercising is so important, but that wasn’t always the case! Now going for a jog or joining a Crossfit group is totally the norm– meditation will someday be that ubiquitous too.

Okay, so let me just get one big thing out of the way first. I am a skeptic by nature. I often find myself rolling my eyes at the newest craze and raising my eyebrow at anything that I deem a little too ~woo woo~. But, I’ll also give anything a try once… mostly so I can have a personal testament on why it’s a big scam.

So, four years ago, my friend and I committed to a 30-day meditation challenge. I hated EVERY minute of it. Our other 30-day challenges had been huge successes for both of us, so I was afraid to tell her that I failed miserably. When I finally admitted it, she admitted to hating it too. I chalked meditation up to baloney and continued on my merry way.

Unfortunately, my “way” wasn’t all that “merry” since anxiety is something that I’ve suffered from since childhood. I don’t remember a time in my life when I wasn’t overwhelmed by fear in some way. It affects my everyday life in small and big ways. Some are kind of rational like a fear of being in crowded space and some are not at all like checking for my keys forty five times before walking away from my apartment.

One night I was seized with panic in a super crowded restaurant. People kept bumping into me while waiting for a table and I wanted to crawl out of my skin. I was so relieved when my boyfriend suggested we leave because the wait was too long… I practically ran out of the restaurant and took a giant breath once I was outside. (I hadn’t realized it but I was so tense that I was barely breathing before!)

Despite the initial relief of being out of the restaurant, the anxiety was still lingering. (Sometimes it’s better for me to just have the full panic attack so I can get everything out of my system.) My boyfriend told me to download Headspace, which I did, but I didn’t open the app for a few days. I mentioned that I’m a skeptic but I’m also pretty stubborn, ha.

The app went unused until one night when I couldn’t fall asleep. I used the “Falling Asleep” single and, well, I don’t remember hearing the end of it. I don’t think I’ve ever fallen asleep so quickly in my life. After doing the sleep meditation for about a week, I finally decided to try the introductory pack.

I did the first ten-day pack, committing to doing it even when I dreaded it. Then the second ten-day pack… and then the third. Within 30 days, I started to finally “get” what meditation is all about. It’s not about trying to stop all of your thoughts as I previously believed. It’s about letting your thoughts pass by (like clouds in a sky) and to tune into yourself, particularly the breath.

Even 300 days later, I still use guided meditations because it helps me stay on task. I love that Headspace added a daily meditation with new messages and things to focus on. The app also has singles for everything from fear of flying to recovering after a workout.

I’ve been meditating every day, even if I don’t feel like it, because it works. There’s a lot of scientific evidence on what meditation does for the body and brain (it’s fascinating and I recommend doing research if you’re interested). But here’s how it has specifically helped me without needing to do brain scans to prove:

  • I used to have at least one panic attack per week and I’ve had only one full one and a couple of semi-ones in nine months. That alone is a drastic change.
  • I feel a lot more in control of the intrusive thoughts I have from OCD. They haven’t gone away completely, but they’re a lot quieter, less grotesque, and don’t escalate as much. I’ve found some separation from myself and my thoughts.
  • I am more focused throughout the day too. I try to meditate before bed because it helps me sleep better, but I also meditate before the start of the work day. It’s a calm, clear, and sharp sort of focus.

Tips for first time meditators:

  • If you’re just starting off, I can’t recommend Headspace enough. Andy’s voice is so calming and the guided meditations will help you figure out how to meditate. You won’t feel alone! You can set reminders and keep track of your streaks so you never miss a day. There are a ton of different packs and singles to choose from, but start with the Basics I, II, and III. Check Groupon for discounts on memberships. I’d pay full price still because it’s that worth it to me; it’s still a fraction of the cost of an hour with a therapist and you get access for a year!
  • Commit to doing it every day for ten minutes. When my friends say that they failed, my first question is, “Did you do it every day for a week?” followed by “How long were your sessions?” The answers are almost always “no” and “three minutes.” One minute is definitely better than zero, but give the ten minutes a try. With the app, you’ll be reminded to pull your attention back to the breath. You will not be perfect; perfection is not the point. It’s noting when you’re distracted and refocusing. It’s okay to feel frustrated. Some sessions will be better than others.
  • Don’t take my word for it. I stumbled on 10% Happier and listened to the audiobook. I didn’t realize at the time, but it’s Dan Harris’ meditation journey. I loved the book because he’s just this normal guy talking about meditation in a non ~woo woo~ way. The more I read about meditation, particularly other people’s journeys, the more I love practicing myself. There are endless ways in which you can benefit.

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  1. I love your posts, Carly! Nice surprise to see you on The Stripe! 🙂

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  2. Carly A. Heitlinger says 1.10.18

    Thank you for letting me share my meditation journey!! I hope everyone can give it a try!

  3. Shari says 1.10.18

    You’ve convinced me! Just downloaded the app. Grace, Is there any program so that you could get credit for my referral? Thanks!

  4. Kristin Bassett says 1.10.18

    I absolutely love Carly and have also enjoyed following her wellness journey. I meditate sooooometimes, but am considering doing a 30-day challenge in February. – Kristin | It’s Kristin

  5. Rebecca says 1.10.18

    251 days on Headspace!!! Trying to make it a year…we’ll see.

  6. Kelly says 1.10.18

    Another free app out there is called insight timer – I like the way they sort the meditations so if you only have 5 minutes to get focused you can quickly find one. I’m definitely encouraged to get back to meditation in 2018!

  7. Ashlee says 1.11.18

    Loved reading about Carly’s experience! I’ve recently been trying to get into a better habit of meditating. I go to a local meditation studio in DC and really love it. I look forward to those 30 minutes of calm. I definitely need to check out Headspace to incorporate smaller meditations throughout my week. Thanks for sharing Grace & Carly!

    Ashlee | http://www.cobaltchronicles.com

    • grace at the stripe says 1.11.18

      So glad you enjoyed it as much as I do.
      I love the idea of going to a meditation studio, I think it could be SO great!!!