I met Emily Holmes Hahn (the founder of white glove match-making service Last First) at a party in the Hamptons this summer and we instantly hit it off. We immediately bonded over our mutual handbag obsession. I drooled over her white Goyard, she complimented my vintage red Chanel. The girl has style, and she is also really nice. That can be hard to find. And when I found out that she was a professional matchmaker, I instantly (of course) had a million questions for her. Fast forward to a few weeks later, I’ve finally managed to rope her into helping me out with a little blog post.
Emily was kind enough to answer some fun dating related questions for us (scroll to the bottom) AND put together four really cute date outfit ideas. (I’m particularly obsessed with the whole daytime outfit… I want every single thing she featured). Then, to keep things budget friendly, Kelly then came in and tracked down some more affordable alternatives for each look. Enjoy!
“I chose a feminine, preppy-with-a-twist look for the workweek lunch date. Keep it simple with minimal accessories, or layer on the ear cuffs and/or hat if those speak to you. The Ganni skirt should be properly tailored, because that pop of skin between boot and hem is essential!” – Emily
Get the look: Maje Top // Ganni Leather Mini Skirt // Stuart Weitzman Boots // Mansur Gavriel Patent Mini Bucket Bag // Eugenia Kim Georgina Fedora (optional) // Accessorize this look with delicate ear candy like this, this, or this.
“Brunch is a fun and relaxed time, so a swingy slip of dress is a great pick. Layer on this herringbone blazer or fringed scarf, or both, to make the look weather-appropriate. Finish the look with these Rag & Bone Harrow boots and Self-Portrait sunglasses, both on-trend and practical.” – Emily
The Look for Less: Forever 21 Dress // Charles by Charles David grey suede boots // ASOS New Look Blazer // BaubleBar Ear Crawlers // Festival Round Sunglasses // Leather Satchel Co. Saddle Bag // Forever 21 Scarf
“For a more formal dinner date, a LBD is a great place to start. This one by IRO is the kind of dress that makes you look in-the-know but not runway crazy. Finish the outfit with a dainty Are You Am I choker tied up in a bow (for a little flirt) and sparkly, but discreet, jewelry, which you could do in gold or silver.” – Emily
“For a downtown dinner date, try a look that’s clean and dressy-casual. Winter white is always a “do” when balanced out with darks, and the cut of the Elizabeth and James top will flatter any figure. I did red accents with this look but you could keep it easier with only blacks and whites, too; or go for a more trendy “pop” of olive green or airy blue.” – Emily
I also got Emily to answer a few dating-related questions for me… enjoy!
Grace: Getting ready for a date can be daunting – what’s the best advice you have to offer?
Emily: The most important thing is to wear something that makes you feel confident. If you’re confident, you’ll be more relaxed and alluring. A great formula for achieving that confidence level is to wear something that (a) is spot-on for the occasion and (b) accentuates your favorite feature.
Grace: Are there any absolute dont’s? For example, I’ve had friends tell me things like… “don’t wear red lipstick,” “Don’t carry a designer bag or he will think you are shallow,” “Don’t wear heels in case he’s not as tall as his profile says..“
Emily: I don’t like a “don’t” rule if it interferes with your personal style. But, I suppose you should avoid coming on too strong in any one direction. I always say to my women clients, “balance your look.” If you have to have Gwen Stefani red lips (amazing if you can pull it off!), just go very light on the rest of your make-up. If you do carry a structured designer bag, go for a more effortless-chic outfit. And always, if you wear a super short skirt, pick a more covered-up top.
Grace: If you remember… what did you wear on your first date with Ross?
Emily: It was early September so I did a dark summery look. I wore a short, slinky black trapeze dress from Maje (which if you couldn’t tell from my outfit picks, is one of my favorite brands!), and these black leather-and-cork wedge sandals that I got as “wardrobing” when I worked at Ralph Lauren. I’d be lying if I said I remember how I accessorized, but let’s say I had some awesome rose gold stacked rings, and dainty layered necklaces! I love little pops of twinkly jewelry on a date because they’re unassuming but still eye-catching. So I probably wore those!
Grace: Any parting advice?
Emily: On a first date—or one in which you don’t know your date well—wear something you love, but also something slightly classic. A little black dress for dinner or a jeans-and-heels combo may sound “basic,” but it is really spot-on. You want your personality and gorgeous face to shine, and your outfit to play a supporting role!