Hooray. We made it to the long weekend!!!! Is it annoying or weird when I (an influencer, who could follow whatever schedule I want) say that? Someone once DM’d me “You don’t have a real job, why are you excited for the weekend?” which I thought was so silly. I mean I get it, I don’t have a boss but I still have work and deadlines and a lot of demands. You can still have a long week even when you’re self-employed. And more importantly, WE ARE ALL ALLOWED TO BE EXCITED FOR THE WEEKEND! (Clearly I am excited – if you saw my instagram stories yesterday then you know that I had a bit of a rough day.)
Anyway this look is a fav right now because it’s a little bit business-y (I say a little bc a sheer top would never work in the office!) but also so very fun. And I love the button details on the sides of this top.
I hope you guys have fun long weekend plans! I am laying low and staying in the city as we head to Chicago on Wednesday for our podcast live show (so excited!!!) It will still be business as usual in these parts (weekend reads tomorrow). I am just hoping the weather holds up – I am reading this book and cannot put it down. It’s been one of those weeks where I have this amazing book and all I want to do is read it but have a lot of plans. So I’m really excited to have a day where I just read all day, preferably in the sunshine. Happy Memorial Day, XOXO
Anine Bing Blazer (bought this past fall, see it styled differently here + here. This blazer is VERY similar and so cute and available in up to a size 20! This one is v cute as well.)// gifted INSPR top (runs big; the XL fits size 18!) // Paige Jeans (old, for something inclusive I LOVE Good American or Universal Standard denim) // Chanel Red Bag (Vintage) // Sarah Flint Heels // Karen Walker Sunglasses
This week I was thinking a bit about the idea of “hate reading” and the psychology behind it Do you have any hate reads (or listens)? This isn’t an invite to tell me who they are (please don’t!), but I’m curious. I don’t have any hate reads but I used to have a hate listen podcast.
I am keeping the details on it vague for obvious reasons but it drove me nuts because it has a large following and they give such bad advice and would talk about products that were very ordinary/had been on the market forever as if they were these incredible and amazing new discoveries. Like, as in… “we discovered this amazing NEW restaurant – Olive Garden!” Okay it wasn’t that bad (and no shade at all to Olive Garden) but you get my drift. I get salty when people give bad/poorly researched advice and would listen and want to bang my head against the wall.
But the bigger question:
Why was I bothering to listen to something that caused me so much anguish?
I almost said I don’t know but the truth is that I know exactly why I was doing it. Listening to it made me feel superior. At the end of an annoying or frustrating day I’d put it on and laugh to myself about how little they knew. When I thought about how bad it was that I was doing that, I deleted it from my podcast library and stopped listening.
To be honest, I still sort of (in a weird, messed up) miss listening to it. In a way I developed a bit of a soft spot for them. But when I thought about the reason I was listening, I grossed myself out a little bit.
I’m not here to judge anyone for hate listening or hate reading, or whatever you want to call it. We all have long days and sometimes a hate read feels just as a long hot bath or cozying up with Younger and a glass of wine. But it made me feel icky (especially knowing that I’m probably someone else’s hate listen/hate read) so I stopped.
photography by Carter Fish.