Hi – and happy Monday! I have the day off which is such a treat… so I am having a little “me day…” avoiding work as much as I can + having a little spa day… going for a facial and a massage later today.
I’m wearing a few faves today. I bought this shearling scarf three years ago and am still surprised by how often I wear it. It’s fun for parties or going out at night, but equally lovely during the day as an extra layer to stay warm. People always think it’s a vest or attached to my coat, but it’s just a scarf. I get asked about it all the time and this is the closest I’ve been able to find, but it’s very expensive (albeit on sale, for $450 from $1250.) A much more affordable way to get the look is this Topshop Fur Scarf – you could wear it the same way.
My top is from a new-to-me line called Cooper & Ella. I really, really love their pieces as they incorporate cool, special details – a mesh panel here, a cut-out there… a special trim, etc. This one is a favorite (it comes in white, too!)
Shop the Post: Loro Piana Coat (similar options here + here) // Karl Donoghue Shearling Scarf (very old but love this or this snood) // Cooper & Ella Top (c/o) // J. Brand Jeans // Henri Bendel Satchel // Manolo Blahnik Suede Pumps // Dolce Gabbana Lipstick in Real Red
Would you like to be famous? In what way?
While I would like my site and my work to be well known, I personally would never want to be recognizably famous. To be honest, I’m really shy. I get anxious in big crowds if I don’t know the majority of the people there, and I get nervous + quiet around people I don’t know very well. So no. I do not want to be famous. Getting approached on the street, paparazzi, always having to be “on” and not being able to just not wear makeup and all of that… no!
Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
Sometimes… but to be honest I avoid the phone as much as I can. Whenever possible I stick to email/texting. I have to use the phone from time to time at work, but on a personal level the only person I really talk to on the phone is my mom; and I know she wishes I called more!
What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
My perfect day would involve getting a lot of sleep. I know as you grow older, you are supposed to require less sleep, but sleeping in still remains one of my most favorite indulgences. I’d go to bed around midnight, and stay in bed til eleven or twelve. Note that I never actually get to do it, but getting a solid twelve hours in bed sounds like the most decadent thing in the world. I say in bed vs. sleeping because part of this time would be spent watching a show or reading. From there, I’d get up, stretch, make a big mug of coffee with almond milk, and play with Tyrion. I’d meet a friend for Soul Cycle or Barre and a green juice after, and then maybe go for a massage or a facial (hey, we’re talking perfect day here, right!?) Then I’d go home, take a nap, work on the blog a little, and meet girlfriends for a low key dinner at a cute wine bar. I’d come home, have some tea, and curl up in bed with a movie or a good book. I feel relaxed just writing this! And actually, today is sort of my perfect day, now that I think about it.
If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
I’m going to take the high road and say my mind. But the bod would be nice.
For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
My family, 100%. Hallie said this quite nicely in her post, but I feel so lucky to have two sisters and be so close with them. Built in best friends. And to have parents that raised me to be strong and hard working. They’ve always been so incredibly supportive of my dreams and taught me that I can do (almost) anything, if I put my mind to it… I’m so grateful for that.
If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
Oh there are so many things! But off the top of my head, I wish I were more analytical. I’m fine at math, but I wish I were one of those people who could look at a spreadsheet and crunch a few numbers and walk away with brilliant insights. I say this because I was in a meeting the other day for my day job with our co-founder and was blown away by how quickly she digested the information and the insights she had – immediately. I’m working harder at being more analytical but it’s not something that comes naturally to me. I also wish I were more coordinated. And a better public speaker. I often say that I can write well but am really rather bad at talking. Ha.
Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
Traveling for a prolonged period of time. I haven’t done it because there’s always been something holding me back – work, finances, etc. I want to change that in the next couple years.
If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
I would quit my job and travel the world – Asia, South America, Africa. Australia, all the places I haven’t been to yet. I would see all of the things and do all of the things. And also eat all of the things. And make sure all of the people closest to me knew how much I love them.
What does friendship mean to you?
Friendship means a lot of things, but a big one to me is being there for the people in your life when they need you most. And checking in on them. A friend and I discussed this… how when something goes wrong in your life, the moment something goes wrong everyone is there, asking you how you are, and so on and so forth. But its the friends who still check in weeks later that are the most helpful. Another big thing for me is loyalty. When I was younger, I remember my friends badmouthing each other, or disguising gossip as a concern. I was guilty of it too, but I stopped years ago. I think it’s a factor of having fewer (but better friends) as I get older, and also we’re too busy for it! It’s refreshing… we have each other. Lastly, friendship to me means being able to be honest with each other – even if it isn’t necessarily what the friend wants to hear.
Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
Trust-worthy, fun-loving, independent, intelligent… and a shallow one: tall. 🙂
How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
We are very close. I wish we all lived closer together, but I see my sister Becca all the time. I had a very happy childhood, though as the oldest child, I admit to terrorizing my younger sisters quite a bit.
Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share … “
I wish I had someone with whom I could share my life. Yep – know that’s cheesy. I often worry that I am going to die alone simply because I am so content being alone. I have a pretty awesome life. I have an amazing family and the best girlfriends in the world. I can buy myself pretty things and take myself on trips when I want to. I really want for nothing (except for maybe more hours in the day.) But a boyfriend would be nice. Dating in your thirties is tough. I have a clearer sense of self (and a clearer sense of what I’m looking for) but the pool is so small. I’ll keep at it though. Two close friends who are also in their thirties have met their serious boyfriends on Tinder (of all places), which gives me hope!
When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
I last cried in front of my sister when I was home over Christmas break. I was working in my family restaurant and was so tired (and very hungry) and my dad and I got in a fight. It started as watery eyes and turned into an avalanche – the tears just kept coming. Christmas was a little rough this year with my mom’s accident… we were all a little more emotional. I don’t usually cry very much.
Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
Well I was going to say Tyrion, but then I reread the question and realized he’d been saved already (whew!) My laptop – I’d be lost without it. Or my mini Chanel purse, I love it so much – and it’s vintage so it would be harder to replace.
So there you have it! If you’ve answered these on your own blog, be sure to tell me so in the comments – I’d love to read your answers!
photography by Lydia Hudgens.