So before we even dive into today’s post I AM SO, SO SORRY ABOUT MY PANTS. Ugh. I love these photos so much and this would be one of my favorite outfit posts ever but. my. pants. I swear to you, the creases in the middle were not visible in the mirror, or anywhere… and then we shot them and they magically appeared. I’m mad about my pants. It’s as if the camera just brought out the lines, like invisible ink. So, I am upset at my pants, I apologize for them, and now we shall move on.
Today I’m wearing a crop top and pants… two things I rarely wear so this is a bit out of my comfort zone. But it works (hideous creases aside), making me think that a) I need more cropped pants in my life and b) maybe I should experiment a little more. Despite being a bit afraid of both things (crop tops and pants), I really love this outfit! This came to me as I sat down to write this post but this outfit is sort of a metaphor for my life right now. Comfort zones – and the importance of getting out of them.
I have spent much of this summer getting out of my comfort zone and doing things that frankly, terrify me a little bit. Launching the podcast. Going to Cuba. Going to Asia by myself. This weekend will mark the last of the things that terrify me (for a bit?) I am the keynote speaker at The Blog Societies’ conference in Atlanta. And I am so nervous. A one hour speech. Yikes. I have it pretty well prepared but I am still s.o. n.e.r.v.o.u.s.!!! So nervous. I am a perfectionist and I want it to be perfect. I have spent hours rehearsing and going over my talking points but I’m still just so nervous! (As an aside, if you are going, please come say hello. I may be playing it cool but trust me, I’m terrified and it will be great to feel like someone listening actually reads my blog!)
Outfit Details: Ellery Crop Top (a couple years old – similar here , here and here) / / Madewell Pants / / Steve Madden Sandals / / Nordstrom Sunglasses (similar pair here) / / Palmgrens Bag (similar) // gifted Paula Rallis x J Ervan Earrings
Back to comfort zones though. Networking. Networking (for me) is a lot like SLT. Or any sort of high impact, choreographed group exercise, for that matter. I am not good at it, so I avoid it.
What a terrible thing – to not do things we might end up liking, simply because we’re bad at them. I have a great group of friends and in the comfort of my home or with that inner circle I really don’t care about making a spectacle out of myself. I’m the life of the party. Sometimes even funny! But with new people, I am nervous. And because of that I hate networking. Introducing myself. Saying hello to people I don’t know.
Oof. My palms start to sweat. I stutter or make bad jokes. The social anxiety kicks in and I want to run and hide. As a full time influencer/blogger/writer (for the record, “influencer” is my least favorite word ever and I like “writer” best), I tend to show up at events and stick to the comforts of my close friends or phone (and then run out, once I’ve learned about the new product/said hello to the PR person, etc.) I know, I know, this isn’t good.
I need to branch out and make more of an effort. And I’m really trying.
This is such a small thing (and sort of an embarrassing story) but last night I said hello to a blogger that I admire. Despite having been doing this for almost nine years, I was really nervous to say hello! I said to myself (internal monologue so don’t judge me haha), “you’re a keynote speaker! you went to Asia BY YOURSELF!!! get it together!” and then decided to just say hello. I mean what’s the worst thing that can happen, right?
She rolled her eyes, dumped her wine on me, and stormed out.
JK. She was lovely. So sweet and down to earth. Like so nice. I wanted to be all like, “let’s be friends! let’s take Pilates!” but am also well versed in blogger life and all of the invites and how damn busy we all are. So we moved along and I kind of just laughed at myself for being such a nerd.
At the end of the day we are all people. When I go to events and parties I tend to just stick close to the people I know (or if I don’t know anyone, my phone) but I’m trying to branch out a little more. But we are all human. And as much as we love our phones, we all crave genuine connection.
So it’s okay to just say hi. Baby steps. Asia. Saying hello to strangers that I think are cool.
One thing at a time!
Photography by Trent Bailey.