How many best friends do you have?
When I think about it, really think about it, I have seven. Maybe eight or nine, actually. And that doesn’t even count my sisters. Is that too many? LOL. Becca said something in an early episode of our podcast that really resonated with me: “best friend is a tier, not a person.” If I had to “rank” those friendships, it would be impossible as they are my closest friends and a part of my inner circle for various reasons. I’m probably closest to Alex (my friend who lives upstairs) and Becca (who you know from the podcast) but I also see them each multiple times a week. Aside from them there are guy friends and my best friend who has two kids and lives on the Upper East Side and friends in other cities.
When I get married I probably won’t have a big wedding or a wedding party (I’m just not really a wedding person, and at this age the idea of a large wedding party seems so silly). But for some reason the other night I was picturing it – what it would look like if I did have all eight of them + my sisters standing up there. It would be one ridiculous and amazing crew.
La Vie Rebecca Taylor Coat (gifted – thanks, RT!) // Saint James Tee // Paige Jeans // Gucci Belt // Soludos Boots (THE BEST and on sale! get them here too!) // Polaroid Sunglasses // Lipstick: Charlotte Tilbury in “Bitch Perfect”
There are so many different types of friendships that are each so important and feed different parts of our soul. I’m not really into talking about feelings and I’m someone who takes pride in being independent. But there is no denying it, I need my friends.
There’s the friend you’ve known forever and knows about and will laugh with you about all the horrible decisions you made in your twenties. There is the friend who will sit with you and hold your hand and cry with you when something bad happens. Also, there’s the friend that will (potentially seriously?) offer to murder or lightly harm the guy who wronged you or the boss who fired you. There’s the friend who sends you stupid memes when you need cheering up. Or the friend who brings you soup when you’re sick. There’s the crew you screenshot your dating conversations to. There’s the friend who just gets you, the kindred spirit with whom you can have long, deep conversations with. These aren’t all necessarily the same person. Which is why I love Becca’s quote so much. For me, best friend isn’t a person, it’s a tier.
What do you think? Do you agree?
photography by Carter Fish.