I got sad again this week. Truthfully it was because I was reading this article about living with your significant other before marriage, and it said something to the effect that, if it doesn’t work out, it will feel just like a divorce but that no one will treat it as seriously, because duh, you were not actually married. Ain’t that the truth. It was one of those know-it-all-ish, condescending articles and it hurt to read it. I really don’t know why I kept reading all the way through (dumb) but I couldn’t stop reading. It stuck with me all week and just left me feeling down and out. Which really is just what happens when I think about the past year or so, to be honest.
But then I saw another quote somewhere (I spend far too much time on the Internet, reading these articles, blog posts, seeing quotes on Pinterest… it’s dangerous.) It was much more articulate than the way I’m going to put it but it basically said something to the effect that the formula for happiness is that you must always, always keep your eye on the future vs. looking back. Whatever it said, it was true. The bad days are the ones where I look back. The good days are the ones where I’m excitedly looking ahead to something new. Right now, besides this trip, there is nothing hugely exciting on the horizon… but I am looking forward to starting yoga classes when I get home next week, and taking French classes later in November. And a fun dinner with two of my favorite girlfriends next Saturday when I get home. Little, but fun things. There always have to be these fun things that I can look ahead to, to keep me from looking back.
So on Friday, I made a little pact with myself, and it really starts this week, on vacation. Besides focusing on the future vs. the past, that pact is to just add a little bit of adventure to every day, to step outside of my comfort zone. To do one “adventurous” thing every day. It could be the tiniest thing… like trying a colored eyeliner or a crazy new shade of lipstick… or a bigger thing, like going zip lining in the rainforest (something I’m heartily considering doing this week – despite being insanely afraid of heights.) Just doing little things that give you that rush to keep moving forward and looking ahead. It’s easier said than done but life is too short to live in the past. We must always be looking ahead and focusing upon that next great moment.
What do you do to stay positive?