Today’s post is of a more serious nature but before we dive in, this dress is just the best. I included it as one of my five key pieces for Fall. Flattering, affordable, will be cute with tights and boots later… I can’t say enough good things.
Anyway today’s post was going to be more ramblings on cute clothes and such and I get it, that’s why you come here, so I’m still sharing my outfit details. But last night I sat down to write the text for this post and I was just coming up short. I was really, really sad and couldn’t turn on my happy voice to talk about clothes and shoes and lipstick. And I want for this place to always be a positive place for you to come, with pretty things to look at but yesterday was just so sad. I woke up to the news of the Las Vegas shooting – the most deadly shooting in American history. 527 injured, 59 dead. I’m so sad for our country. It feels like there is a new tragedy every day, and they keep getting worse and worse. (I’m not even mentioning Tom Petty but that only added to the sadness of the day. Man. As I write this, I’ve got his Spotify channel playing. Saying a little prayer.)
Anyway, I feel sick and sad and disappointed and disgusted and basically all of the emotions.. and I have been struggling to figure out how I can help. My friend Kelly wrote a great post on how to help and what to do, but in the meantime… hug your loved ones and take the time to pray/meditate/practice self-care. Last night I went for a long bike ride and then came home and took a bath.
Kind of going with that, there is something else that’s on my mind. Not every blogger is going to talk about politics or address these more serious issues on their blog and I think that’s a) totally and completely their choice, and b) okay – it doesn’t mean they don’t care or aren’t affected by what’s going on in the world, they are probably just dealing with it in their own way. I saw a little miniature war break out on twitter yesterday between two bloggers I that I really like and respect. One basically said (in her own words) that no one should be posting outfits and fashion-y stuff during a tragedy. The other shot back asking her if she went into work that day.
I see both sides of it as I’ve received comments/emails from you guys with different viewpoints. Some of you guys really like when I talk about more serious issues, and some of you don’t. On one side, blogs can provide a sort of lightness, a distraction, when things are hard. I remember when I posted about the election, I got a lot of emails saying things like, “hey, I respect that you posted about your feelings on the elections but COME ON… I come to your site for a break from politics… to read about fashion and happy things!” Or there was that time I endorsed Hillary Clinton on my Instagram account and lost nearly a thousand followers in the matter of a couple hours. (No regrets on that one but it took me a reallllly long time to make up the difference.) On the other side of the coin, I was sick during the Women’s March and got mean DM’s criticizing me for not marching. So I get that. I have always felt personally inclined to use my platform share my views on the more serious stuff but I can also understanding not wanting to. It’s a personal decision and most of the time you end up feeling like you just can’t win.
So if your favorite blogger is staying silent or sticking to posting pretty things, it’s probably not because they don’t care about the bigger issues. They likely see sticking to posting their usual content as a) their job and something they have to post every day no matter what, or b) are nervous or unsure of what to say. It’s just a thought. I think at this time right now, things are hard enough… we (bloggers, women, people, humans) need to support each other, and spread love + kindness. There’s already more than enough hatred and judgment out there.
And so, friends, I have three small (tiny!) challenges for you. In the spirit of kindness and brightening someone else’s day… let’s all try and do these three things today… (and maybe the rest of the week, for that matter… I’m going to do them too!)
one // send a nice note, text, or email to at least one old friend or family member to brighten their day. Tell them something you love or appreciate about them.
two // pay at least three genuine compliments to three different people. It’s amazing how much a the tiniest kind words (“I love your shoes!” “You did such a great job in that meeting!”) can brighten someone’s day.
three // do something good for yourself. Get out for a run – or better yet, a long and relaxing walk. Take a bath. Do a face mask. Buy yourself bodega roses. Heck, pay yourself a compliment!
Photography by Carter Fish.