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  1. carrie says 3.8.17

    This is a beautiful post and yes I agree 100% with all of it. As a fairly new blogger (and over 40 at that) I am trying really hard to balance the fun and superfluous with the helpful and sometimes serious. And you are right, you can love beautiful things and care about how you look without letting it define you. I wish I had written that!!!!!!

  2. Elizabeth says 3.8.17

    Absolutely loved reading this!
    Xo, Elizabeth

  3. Natali says 3.8.17

    Your shoes and top are super cute! You’re looking adorable in this casual yet glamorous outfit! LOVE your top and ballerinas.


  4. Such a cute look. And what beautiful words you’ve shared. I think number 1 is still a bit hard for me, as someone who’s always had self-confidence issues. Getting better day by day, though!

    Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog

  5. Elle says 3.8.17

    Such a beautiful post. Thanks for staying real with us! That jacket is everything and you look gorg!
    xo elle // https://splashofpreppy.com

  6. Marta says 3.8.17

    Amazing post. You’re such a strong woman and I never would’ve imagined that you went through that stuff. I’m really lucky to have worked in companies that had mostly female workers and I was actually astonished at how nice everyone was. But unfortunately, it’s not that way for everyone. But we’ll keep fighting and one day no one will have to go through anything like what you’ve been through.

  7. Eva says 3.8.17

    Thank you.

  8. Casey says 3.8.17

    I love this post and all that it stands for. That being said, including Khloe Kardashian’s jeans doesn’t seem to fit – there are PLENTY of denim brands to choose from that don’t associate with a celebrity who advocates losing weight and being skinny to “get revenge on an ex.” How does that fit into a post about feminism? I understand cute jeans are cute jeans just as Ivanka’s shoes can be cute too, but you have a platform that lets your voice be heard and I think the items featured should include more thought.

  9. Tracy Schwartz says 3.8.17

    What a wonderful post. Thank you for writing this and sharing the stories.

    Keep these posts coming here and there!

  10. Shannon Waisath says 3.8.17

    YAY! Girl power! I love love love these posts where you open up and bestow some bo$$ wisdom on me. As a 24 year old in her second job, this post is one that I’ll take to heart!

  11. Laura says 3.8.17

    Great post! Thanks for sharing your experiences

  12. Brittany says 3.8.17

    this is seriously so good and I love it. i am so happy you’re posting more personal stuff like this!

    xo, brittany
    a dreamy porch makeover is on my blog today!

  13. Sophie says 3.8.17

    I love your sunglasses.


  14. Anonymous says 3.8.17

    What a great post! Thank you for sharing. I really love reading your blog because you post good content and are in your thirties. I’m turning 32 soon and in a job I hate at a predominantly male company. My co-workers are all great people, but I still find myself wearing frumpy clothes to the office to conceal my figure. Your job as a blogger really does seem like a dream job to me and it’s clear that you spend a lot of time creating content on thestripe. A lot of other bloggers just seem to be shilling sh*t all the time and come off as so annoying and unauthentic. Reading your blog reminds me of reading a magazine that’s always featuring the latest/greatest fashion and beauty products. You’re so lucky to have this as your job and I know you know that. You seem very talented, so if the blog feels strange to you then don’t be afraid to try something else. You can always keep this going with less posts a week while venturing onto something new.

    Also – love your outfit in this post. So pretty and feminine.

    I’m posting my name as anonymous since I referenced my current job. 🙂

  15. Ashley says 3.8.17

    Grace your blog becomes my favorite more and more! Thank you so much for sharing this! I’ve had a hard time with the current climate, but some of my favorite people on the other side of the aisle and I have to say that I respect everything you’re doing here. I’ve experienced sexism before, (Like in debate in high school when I was known as the b-word because I was one of the top debaters in the state) Hearing other women’s stories makes me even more determined to change it!


  16. Jenn Lake says 3.8.17

    Thank you for your openness and for sharing your truth! Have a great day ahead, lady!

  17. Liz says 3.8.17

    I enjoyed the stories of your early employment situations….those must have been difficult at that age. Although I am a conservative, I respect that as Americans we can have different opinions! However, your comment about throwing out your Ivanka shoes during the election seems contradictory to your post. Really? (I love Ivanka’s line!)

  18. AJ says 3.8.17

    Grace, I so appreciate the first point you make – that our looks don’t define us. But it rings a little hollow when, further down, you refer to one of your former coworkers as “grossly overweight and if we are being honest was one of the most revolting humans I’ve ever met.” Even if you mean his personality was revolting (which it certainly sounds like it is!), by bringing up his weight it seems as though you’re making a value judgment on him based on his weight and appearance.

  19. Eden says 3.8.17

    Brilliant idea sharing these experiences, Grace–so often we’re made to feel shame for these situations we were in no way responsible for. Comparing notes with one another helps restore that power!

    I can definitely identify with your experiences: Starting out, all of my friends and I were alternately labeled, “Too bossy,” “Not assertive enough,” “entitled,” etc. when we were truly just giving our best efforts to get the job done. *A lot* was projected on us. Our male peers, meanwhile, were subject to no scrutiny (and much more praise).

    There’s so much in justice, it can be easy to dismiss these incidents as minor. So, this post is an excellent reminder to give props to your female coworkers when earned… great work is great work, period.

  20. Angela says 3.8.17

    Such a great post! One of my favorite things about your blog is that you post on a variety of different topics. I love that you can post about the latest beauty trend one day and the next day you talk about something more serious like politics or women’s rights. I think the diversity in your content is great and it keeps me coming back! Keep up the great work and happy International Women’s Day! Thank you for all that you do!

  21. Dana Mannarino says 3.8.17

    GRACE! Loved this personal post. Well, I’m sorry all of those shitty things happened to you (especially that last one, OMG), but you can tell that they shaped you and helped you grow. I’m still VERY junior as far as the corporate world is concerned (Associate level), but I have two UNREAL (female) bosses and work with countless other inspiring people – so it’s safe to say that I’m really lucky to get to learn from them and have positive experiences here. As far as blogging, it’s people like YOU who inspire me and make me want to not only be a better influencer, but also just be a better, cooler citizen (I started reading more about politics to educate myself and not let other opinions persuade me). So thank you!!! You’re doing an amazing job at “doing both”!

    Pink Champagne Problems

  22. Caitlin says 3.8.17

    This was such a thoughtful, genuine post Grace! I love that you’ve started covering weightier topics and you’ve done so in such an eloquent way. Keep it up!

    Sorry to hear about your earlier work incidents. Sadly, I think most of us have similar stories from our 20s. I’d like to think that things have changed, but part of me thinks we just age out.

    Enjoy the rest of your week!

    Caitlin | http://sunnystyleblog.com/

  23. Janet says 3.8.17

    Thanks for sharing your workplace stories – I think back to some of what happened when I was in my 20s and I certainly wish I had spoken up more – it’s so easy for women to think it’s something that we did or that it’s just the way it is. Having women hear from other women that it is NOT ok is very important. It’s especially bad for women in male dominated fields (the story out of Uber that came out recently is an example).

    Having to be more chatty to get along with other women? It is frustrating that men can just be competent, women have to be competent and warm (but not too warm or we’re seen as less competent… or get our warmth misinterpreted by the guys!). It gets to be exhausting sometimes.

  24. Joanna says 3.8.17

    This was a great post! I’m deeply saddened to say that my worst bosses have been women. So catty, so passive aggressive. I had a female boss that literally made me ill (it was later determined I had an ulcer from the stress of seeing her every day) and because I too was young and naive (this was my first job out of college), I put up with it. Never, ever again. I look forward to raising a daughter stronger than myself, and though mine is only 10 months old at the moment, I have hope for her future.

  25. Kellie says 3.8.17

    I hate it when people say women can do any job and are equal, there are no issues. There are SO many issues! Thank you for sharing your stories.

    I’m wearing my red today! I couldn’t take off because I have less than an hour of leave, since my years of building it up was completely demolished thanks to two maternity leaves. Yeah, the fact that I’m of a sex that can reproduce so now have to live with years of unpaid leave is ridiculous.

    Back to you & the blog- I appreciate your more serious posts mixed in with the more frivolous ones. We need both for sure & I always think you do a great job of making the posts a conversation. Our political views align but I think you handle it all with *ahem* grace!

  26. Katherine says 3.8.17

    Thank you SO MUCH for your post. I just turned 20 and since starting college last year I am thinking so much more about these issues, especially with the election. I have started to wonder and try to figure out how I fit into the world where I love being a woman and feminine but do not love the stereotypes and inequality. Every day I am starting to notice it more. Sometimes I wonder how my life will be different than I thought it would be when I was growing up because of the way traditions are starting to reveal sexism… but this post helped me so much. THANK YOU for telling your stories. You did not overshare–society wants you to think you are oversharing because it wants you to be quiet about your injustice. But we have to share our stories. Women are great storytellers because we HAVE to learn from each other’s experiences in this world. Thank you so much for this post.

  27. SB says 3.8.17

    Amazing post and so appreciated!!!

  28. Sam says 3.8.17

    Absolutely love everything you said (and that adorable outfit!) I don’t even really have words to respond because you wrote so eloquently. I will say though that I’ve always admired you for being not only very genuine, but smart, and not afraid to delve deeper. Glad you realized that you can ‘do both.’


  29. Cory says 3.8.17

    I have always enjoyed your blog, but this new direction you are taking is making me LOVE your blog and you. Thank you!

  30. love this so much!

  31. BSDH says 3.8.17

    Today, as always, I am so proud to call you a friend. I am SO sorry that you had to deal with those issues. I wish I would have known / been able to help. Thank you for sharing. I am sure it was hard. Please know how loved and respected you are. You bring light into our lives with your blog.

    In solidarity I share two stories of my own experiences:

    1) My first full time legal job was as the first in-house counsel for a small “family” of life sciences companies. They were owned by a husband/wife duo that barely spoke. I was also the head of HR at this point and the reporting structure for any harassment was me, the wife, or the husband. One day I went into the husband’s office to get some docs signed. As we went through chit chat, I asked what he had planned for the weekend (it was a Friday). He said “Oh, I’ve got a ‘honey-do’ list” Me: haha. *silence* Me (filling the silence): “I’m going to be an extra in a movie.” Him (without a beat): “A porno?”….. ugh.

    2) My second job was with a telecom company and the sales guys were super old school frat boys. Telecom is one of those strangely misogynistic industries. I was constantly being told that I was “too tough” or “not diplomatic” with how I interacted with sales guys. Mind you, my male counterpart was the same but got no such feedback. It was my birthday and one of the sales guys found out as I was on a quick call with him. He asked how old I was. I believe I was 31-32. His response to this was: “Oh I get it now!! You’re just trying to be a big girl!!” What… in the …. actual….F. Again, I didn’t really know what to do I was just angry.

    I hope you have a fabulous day today and know how important you are to so many people in your life, Grace.

    Love you! BSDH

  32. Dana Weinstein says 3.8.17

    This was an amazing post. I absolutely love that you talk about both on your blog and I would love for you to keep doing it!

    Thank you for also sharing your past experiences. It’s a reminder that everyone needs to remember that everyone’s experience is different and it’s important to always support our fellow colleagues.


  33. Rachel says 3.8.17

    Thanks for sharing but more importantly for being YOU.

  34. Lindsay says 3.8.17

    You are a freaking rockstar- to use another cliche annoying phrase, this post gave me so, so much life. As someone who currently works in an industry that is completely male dominated and often frustratingly so, it was really empowering to hear about the experiences you have had. Not in the sense that it is helpful to know that other people are going through the same things, but in the sense that I applaud you for not being hard on yourself for how you handled those things in the moment.

    It is so easy to look back and say how you would have handled something differently, or “better” with some hindsight, but as someone who is still in their twenties and figuring it out as I go, I appreciate your perspective so much here. This post inspires me to feel empowered to speak up for myself in those moments, but also reminds me that it is ok to let yourself feel upset when these things do happen.

    Please keep these types of posts coming- it is so so important in our current political landscape to be informed and to be open and honest about your viewpoints. But I also thank you for the beautiful photos and outfits, because sometimes a distraction is incredibly welcomed.


  35. Brianna Rooney says 3.8.17

    The internet needs more of you, Grace! Your tweets perfectly balance how women feel today – that we need wine and the bachelor to disconnect from the world unfolding around us but when you look cute, it isn’t bad to share that!

    Thank you for acknowledging that it is easy for bloggers and influencers to keep everything surface level and thank you for stepping away from that and realizing your voice goes much further when you open up and get to know/ understand your audience!

    Cannot wait to continue to read your blog and I know we will get through 2017 & beyond together, stronger than ever.

  36. Kat says 3.8.17

    You inspire me!!!!! Loved this article and can 100% relate. Miss you so much babe!!!!


  37. diana pearl says 3.8.17

    Grace, I just adore this post. First, I love that you’ve been speaking out. In a time like this, it’s really, really important. Also your advice. It’s all so true! You need to do things for you, and not worry about what other people think (to a degree, of course, like you said it’s important to be kind and good, espc to your friends and family.) I always try to remind myself that for all the time I’m thinking about my own life/problems, other people are doing the same with their own. No one is thinking about you that much, so just do you!

    And the stories. I can’t believe you went through that (all of them, but the last one especially!) I’m still pretty new into my professional career, and feel really lucky that I’ve worked with a lot of amazing women who want younger employees to succeed. It’s scary to think what some women go through in the workplace, and makes me inspired to to do something to change it.

    Basically, I really adore this post and posts like it are one of the (many) reasons I love your blog! Can’t wait to see even more content like this from you.

    Oh, and I love this outfit, too 🙂

  38. Chassity says 3.8.17

    One of my favorite posts you’ve ever written!!!

  39. Hannah says 3.8.17

    Grace. I LOVE this most. So much. As a long time reader of your blogs, and lots of blogs in general, I can definitely sense a change in the industry. I think you hit the nail on the head with this post and it’s so reassuring to hear the blogger’s real feelings behind (let’s face it) a lot of fluff.

    I also really appreciate you opening up about your story. I had a similar experience of working in a hostile environment for an older man who often made comments about how I looked. He definitely treated me differently than the other men in the office. Looking back I would’ve done so many things different as well (probably like you, would’ve talked to a lawyer), but sometimes those bad experiences really teach you to value yourself.

    Keep these IRL posts comin!!

  40. Sydne says 3.8.17

    What a wonderful post! You truly are an inspiration. Love your writing! x

  41. Lisa says 3.8.17

    Grace!!!!!! I am SOOO happy that you are invigorated to now share “pretty” and “serious” stuff on the blog… you know what I mean!! The beauty of being your own boss and managing such an amazing platform is the flexibility that it gives you to deliver what you want AND what your readers want. But really though, your passion and thoughtfulness on a wide range of issues/topics is what makes ME excited about what you write/share here. You are one incredible woman! 🙂

    PS: Ever since you shared that the expression “girlboss” made you cringe… it started making me cringe as well! HA HA I love the concept but the word choice sounds so undermining. Girlboss should definitely be re-branded! 😉


  42. Chelsea says 3.8.17

    Grace-This is why I love your blog. You don’t pretend the world isn’t happening and you keep it real! I’m sure that the blog isn’t always the real you, but you make us /feel/ like it’s the real you, and that’s the power of your writing and your voice but also what I do think is your authentic self. So thank you for being a place that doesn’t pretend!

  43. Katherine says 3.8.17

    Such a great post, Grace!! Your blog is the best and you are doing a really beautiful job balancing the fun fashion and beauty stuff with the more serious political stuff. I love reading it all – keep it up!!! xxx

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  45. Bill Atwood says 3.8.17

    So proud you’re my daughter !

  46. Beth says 3.8.17

    Thank you so much for sharing your stories. I’m 37 and know from experience that while we have made great strides in the workplace there is still rampant sexism (and also that women can be perpetrators of it). We have a long way to go and talking about it is an important step.

  47. Annie Davis says 3.8.17

    This is wonderful and I really appreciate your honestly and openness! I just recently found your blog and am really enjoying reading it daily. Thanks for your positive contribution to the internet 🙂


    p.s. I’m going to Paris soon and its been so fun reading you Paris posts!

  48. Leah says 3.8.17

    You are the best. Please keep sharing pretty things (I always want to buy all of it), more substantial thoughts, and personal stories. I love your blog so much and am glad you found a way to be re-inspired…pretty sure it’s not a coincidence that the new type of content reinvigorated your blog as well!

  49. Denise says 3.8.17

    Love this Grace, you are such an amazing woman and I am proud to be your Mom and still learned from you, love you

  50. Sofia says 3.8.17

    Thank you for this post, Grace! The shift in your content, including posts like these, is what keeps me coming back to your blog.

  51. Suzanne Coleman says 3.8.17

    Wonderful post, Grace!! You provide such good insight and wise words. Well done!

  52. bets says 3.8.17

    I love this post Grace! Resonated the story about you working as asst perfume buyer and having to be more likeable to female coworkers, but it made you less effective in process. Why is that? If we’re competent and respectful, but focused.. why do we need to be phony or apologize. We’re getting the job done, well and right. Hope your story helps others in similar situations reacte differently based on your experiences. (and the Kardashians are gross and annoying. They are a sensationalized, selfish, and greedy family ugh, has nothing to do with being female)

  53. Carrie says 3.8.17

    GRAAAAACE! Yes, sister, yes. I struggled with the idea of continuing to follow beauty/fashion blogs after November for the same reasons. Thank you for being you. I’m a proud and happy follower. Cheers to all the successful, inspiring, motivating, and supportive women in our lives, both virtual and IRL.

  54. […] brands do the same. I’ve also admired my friends who have spoken up and spoken out. My friend Grace captured a lot about how I’ve felt in balancing the state of our world and penning a lifestyle blog […]

  55. Dana says 3.9.17

    Grace, I have to confess that before the election, I definitely just thought of your blog as almost all fluffy stuff – and it wasn’t one of my top reads. But once you started these much more open, honest, and personal posts, your blog has become one of my favorite destinations for excellent content and perspective in today’s world. Please, please keep it up – and thank you!

  56. Julie says 3.9.17

    Hear hear!! What a fantastic post, and I so love all the points you made about how we can approach some of those hard conversations, and also get out of confirmation bubble. Yay Grace!

  57. Clare says 3.9.17

    Thanks for the Polar News resource. After the election, my friends and I started a Facebook group for a bookclub to learn more about the issues. it’s actually ballooned to over 80 friends of friends! I’ve noticed women in my demographic don’t always feel confident in their knowledge to even discuss the issues openly. We are so afraid of being argued with by a man (that odds are does NOT know what they’re talking about but somehow they don’t seem to question themselves) that we just don’t speak up. So we have taken this opportunity to learn more about income inequality, immigration and human trafficking, criminal justice reform, and hopefully more to come, and to take that knowledge and be empowered to make a change and to speak out about what we believe and politely refute false facts when we hear them perpetuated. I love your book club posts and if you ever read nonfiction maybe you could consider sometimes including something in that vein, for those seeking resources? Thanks so much for sharing your voice!

  58. Cathy says 3.10.17

    This is a beautiful post and I want to thank you for doing what you do. For those of us that live in areas where there are not so many like-minded people, your posts are very important and make us (me) feel not so alone. I love having a place to visit online where I can satisfy the different parts of my interests. And I can’t wait to hear what you’ve been reading lately.

  59. Melissa says 3.10.17

    This is awesome! So beautifully written and so spot on! I pinned the outfit because I love it, but I have a feeling I’ll be coming back to read these words over and over again. The world can be so ugly sometimes, can’t it? And sometimes the ugliness makes me want to just never watch or listen to the news again, and that used to make me feel really bad. Especially around the election and up until the inauguration. Then there would be people posting that if you weren’t all about the activism all day everyday “your privilege was showing.” Yeesh. I felt guilty for all I had, for worrying about wedding things when there were people in the world with actual serious issues. I felt guilty for stepping away. But sometimes you just need to! You can’t fill up from an empty well, and if I’m not rested and feeling good I can’t be the best me for anyone else in my life. And oh man work politics. THE WORST. I’m so sorry about what you went through, especially those rumors! I’m in the middle of it at work right now (nothing that serious!) and I’m trying to find a way out as soon as possible. It’s hard being somewhere where you don’t feel valued, trusted, or empowered to do your job. And being a people pleaser who is afraid of saying the wrong thing and having a target put on your back, it all adds up and makes the 8 hours a day you spend at your desk a chore. So you spend most of it dreaming of the day that you’re your own boss 😉

    Thank you for ALL of your content! Every bit of it is appreciated!! Keep doing you, girl 🙂

  60. Liz says 3.10.17

    Kudos, Grace! Thanks for sharing! I really enjoyed the read and glad that you have found your balance again. Sometimes I feel the same way so was inspired by your comments that we can want to be pretty and look nice but still be concerned about politics and world issues – the ‘important things in the world’.

  61. little luxury list says 3.10.17

    This is such a brutally honest, but lovely post! Personally I love seeing more of your personal views and how you touch on more impactful issues. We live in different, tumultuous times and while we can still appreciate beauty in life, we are also surrounded by chaos that we can’t always control!
    I’ve followed you for a while but this post really made me stop and reflect. I have to find you on more platforms now!

    I mostly still reflect and post about gorgeous things, but increasingly post about healthy-ish recipes and travel or family friendly tips. I debated that for a while, but hey, it’s my space. I don’t say anything brutally personal, but still like to bring brightness or at least some helpful tips. Thanks for reiterating that it’s cool to make our little space in the internet our own!

  62. Nicole says 3.12.17

    Hi Grace! Sorry I am late commenting on this post, but I just saw it and wanted to tell you how wonderful it is. I’m a lawyer and have experienced years of sexual harassment and gender discrimination, and I’m only 31! I knew it was a male-dominated industry going into law school but could have never envisioned how pervasive these issues are. I’ve been touched inappropriately, had an older male lawyer casually attempt to strike up a conversation about oral sex with me while trapped in an elevator, and have been brought along on an overnight case assignment because, as I found out later, the senior lawyer was hoping to sleep with me. Silly me, I thought I was just going to gain the experience I needed to further my career. I’ve even been told that my work product wouldn’t be taken seriously until I got married, and the guys in the office could stop being so distracted by the fact that I was “on the market.” Unfortunately, attempting to use the legal remedies, which should be available to all women who experience harassment in the workplace, can backfire for female lawyers. I’ve been told that taking action would just destroy my career or that talking about these experiences might make OTHERS feel uncomfortable. I will say that these experiences have forced me to think about what is really important in my career – control and autonomy – not playing some dehumanizing game to get a particular job title or position. I’m still learning to put my wellbeing before my career, but I’m getting better at it.

    I think this is my first comment on your blog, and I hate that it was a pretty depressing one. But you’re right – these issues do need to be talked about. So thanks for being vulnerable and sharing with your readers! Just wanted to let you know that I have been following your blog for a couple of years and love it (especially as a fellow New Yorker)!

  63. […] Loved reading Grace’s thoughts on International Women’s Day. […]

  64. […] Been reading The Stripe for ~2 years, and I think this is my favorite post Grace has ever written. […]

  65. Rachel says 3.12.17

    I’ve never read you blog before, and found it after someone shared with post- but as a 21 year old about to graduate from a women’s college and be thrust into the scary “real world”, this post is everything. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences.

  66. Stephanie says 3.13.17

    Such a real post, I Loved it.

  67. Amy says 3.13.17

    Hi Grace – I’ve been thinking about this post since you wrote it. There’s definitely never been a more important time to be asking the tough questions and having hard conversations (BUT) I did want to add a note to this. A part of what I consider to be the tools in the toolkit for any career lady are things like great clothes, skincare, etc. I found myself on a video conference call at work a couple of months ago and was horrified to see how red and blotchy my skin looked. Your recs (Ponds Cold Cream, Burts Bees Daily Lotion and Neutrogena Night Moisturizer) helped me clear that stuff up! That was a HUGE deal for me – I’m on video calls a lot and it was effecting my confidence. I didn’t have women in my life who taught me this stuff and have never particularly been into it myself. Even if it feels fluffy to you, just know that there are people like me out there who seek out your content as a literal guide to tackling some of the basics. I’m so glad that you love these things so that I don’t have to figure it out myself. Keep up the great work!

  68. Jenn J. says 3.17.17

    Oh man. Such a good read, Grace. I’m almost 32 and have had similar experiences in my career… and even mothers of friends say stuff like that to me. Thank you fro sharing your experiences. I don’t feel as alone in these and it’s a good reminder that we all have to do our part to improve the world. Thank you for tackling these tough issues in such a graceful manner!

    PS – I always think of your post when someone tries to tell me that being a feminist is bad. All the love!

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