A Little Pause.

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I originally had a sponsored post planned for today. And it’s a good one – I’m pretty sure you’ll love it when it does go up.. a round-up of my all-time favorite drugstore beauty products. But early early this morning, I emailed the brand to ask if we could move it. It didn’t feel even remotely appropriate to post a sponsored post today. To be totally honest I didn’t feel like it was appropriate to post anything at all. I wanted to take a little pause… but I had to at least… say something?

But what to even say? I’m sick. I’m sad. I’m gutted. I’m completely, utterly heartbroken.

Like many of you, I have spent the past six months glued to the news. Glued. I’d become completely and utterly obsessed with the election, the debates, and absolutely amazed that Donald Trump could even run for president, let alone to manage to become the Republican candidate. I kept waiting for someone to announce that the whole thing was actually a publicity stunt for a new hotel or reality show that he was launching. Alas, it was not.

My girlfriends and I got together last night to watch the election coverage. What started as optimism quickly turned to nervousness and then ultimately transformed into grief and despair. And eating our feelings. I had two pieces of yellow box cake. 

I don’t know, guys. It’s (literally) my job to produce beautiful, cheerful content every day that will hopefully keep you coming back to read my daily musings and ramblings. Cheerfulness comes naturally to me. I’m an eternal optimist. I’m not curing cancer, I know that… but I truly, genuinely love my job so much – and I love telling you about my favorite things. I rarely get political or talk about serious issues – that isn’t my job…we can let someone more knowledgeable do that. My job is to share these cheerful bits… fashion, beauty, wellness… travel. But today I don’t feel cheerful at all and I can’t possibly talk about beauty products or pretty shoes. I don’t really want to talk about anything at all. I’m just kind of in shock.

I’m in an interesting predicament right now. I slept for one hour and got up at 4am, to board a 6am flight to Mexico (oh, the irony) for a sponsored press trip. I’m planning to hopefully sleep on the plane, but upon my arrival, we have a jam packed itinerary – exploring Los Cabos, attending their film festival, and so on and so forth. My suitcase is packed to the brim with bright floral dresses, tassel earrings… handbags shaped like citrus fruits and perfume bottles (yes I actually do own both of those things). I’ve been planning out my outfits for weeks and I’ll be expected to get back into happy mode + instagram sunsets and tropical drinks and selfies and pretty outfit photos.

Oof. Right now, all I want to do right now is stay home, hold my cat, pull a blanket over my head and sob. Do I sound melodramatic? I hope not. But I just don’t know about posting any social media today. I need a little time out. Life will go on. We will move on as individuals and we will move forward as a nation together. I don’t really know what is going to happen… but with any bad situation, I know how to deal with it. You don’t sulk, you put one front in front of the other, you make the best of what you have, and you move forward. I’ll leave it to someone wiser + smarter to tell you what we’ll do, how we’ll move on… but again, that isn’t my job.

The only takeaway I have for you is to just use this to try your hardest to be a nicer, kinder person. Smile at strangers… tip generously… hold open doors. And hug your gay friends, your Muslim friends, your female friends… any minority friends… hell, just hug everyone. Hopefully, this will make us stronger as human beings and we will figure it out together… with kindness, grace, and patience. I still just don’t know how this happened.

I rarely get political over here. And I don’t want to isolate anyone by sharing my feelings. We all have our own opinions and that’s what makes the world go around. I just couldn’t be quiet today.

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  1. Erica says 11.9.16

    Grace, thank you for saying what so many of us are thinking and feeling. I am sick to my stomach that this is our America, especially for my two little babies. I just keep thinking I failed them…by not speaking up against the hate early or often enough. Being afraid of making others mad by voicing my opinion.

    Thank you for pausing to reflect today, instead of putting up your original post. I appreciate it.

    • Meghan says 11.9.16

      Beautiful post, Grace. Erica, you’ve perfectly summed up what I’ve been feeling. I’ve been crying all morning, which was alarming to my fiancée since I am not generally a crier, and I didn’t have words to explain to him just why I am so upset…you nailed it.

  2. Maggie says 11.9.16

    Thanks you for putting it so eloquently. I am already in Mexico on vacation and want to walk around apologizing on behalf of my country today.

  3. Leah says 11.9.16

    Thanks for posting this Grace. It is a highly emotional time. I love looking at all your beautiful shoes and bags but most of all I love that you are real. I hope you enjoy your trip and keep the tequila flowing. xo

  4. Adrienne says 11.9.16

    Thank you, Grace, for saying this so eloquently. I’m afraid for our country, afraid for our relatiwithnthe world, afraid that our country will be consumed with hate, anger and fear.

  5. Adrienne says 11.9.16

    *afraid for our relationships with the world*

  6. Angela says 11.9.16

    Beautifully said, Grace. You put into words what a lot of us are feeling this morning. Have a safe flight to Mexico and enjoy your trip

  7. Grace McCrocklin says 11.9.16

    Grace, I think you expressed your feelings eloquently and graciously, and nobody is going to give you any grief for pressing the pause button today. So often, we at home have our bad days and turn to amazing, thoughtful bloggers like you to lift our spirits, with little regard to how you’re feeling that day. I’m so proud of you for taking this moment to express feelings that we rarely see on lifestyle blogs, and doing so in such a graceful way. Know that you inspire me every day to bring a smile into the world.

  8. Caroline says 11.9.16

    Thank you so much for writing this Grace. I also woke up this morning feeling truly numb, but it’s a good reminder that just because Trump is our next president doesn’t mean that we cannot rise up above hate and everything he stands for. I don’t really know how to be positive yet, but your words are truly helping.

    xx Caroline
    http://www.whenwear.com

  9. Niki says 11.9.16

    Thanks for sharing, Grace. This whole election season has been so hard to wrap my brain around…and I’m stunned. All I know is that now we have to become more involved to protect the rights of all and lift up minorities. I honestly don’t how how we got here but, I’ll be damned if we lose the freedoms that our ancestors protested and marched for!

  10. Briana says 11.9.16

    I feel the same way this morning, Grace. I read a quote from a psychologist that was really comforting and that I keep repeating in my mind. She said that it’s easy to feel disconnected and alone right now but to remember that there are so, so many people who feel just as hurt about this situation and that we aren’t alone. There will always be people who share the values of love and tolerance and we just have to continue to align ourselves with those people. I hope you enjoy Mexico and have a chance to let your mind and heart relax.

  11. Jessica says 11.9.16

    Grace, I read your blog for the cheerfulness…and posts like this. You said it perfectly. My advice for the next four years? Dylan Thomas said it best:
    “Do not go gentle into that good night.
    Rage, rage against the dying of the light.”

  12. Sarah S. says 11.9.16

    Grace, thank you so much for candidly sharing your feelings. Many of us are feeling sad today- it’s ok to mourn what could have been and fear what will be. I’m also an eternal optimist, glass half-full kind of person, and I am at a loss as to how to process what has happened. Honor your heart, give yourself some grace, and know that the sun will rise again tomorrow. Enjoy your trip!

  13. Bryn Bradsher says 11.9.16

    I can completely relate to this post. I am so deeply sad this morning and it all seems so trivial. I admire you for postponing your content. I wish I had done that too. It’s a sad day for everyone who supports love and hope, but I know we will all continue the work we started!

    Sending you love!
    Xo Bryn

  14. Maggie says 11.9.16

    Grace, thank you so much for sharing and being so open and honest. You echo what many of your readers like me are feeling but don’t know how to express it.I love what you say about being a kinder person to others. Have a safe trip- looking forward to your futures posts.

  15. Christina says 11.9.16

    I am a huge fan of your site and have been reading it for yours. However, please remember not all your readers have the same political views as you. Instead of being sad, it’s time for the country to put this behind them and to unite as one because clearly we have been split for way too long.

    • Christina says 11.9.16

      *reading it for awhile – sorry about the typo.

    • graceatwood says 11.9.16

      Hi Christina,
      I do realize that and I hope that came across in the post. I just couldn’t NOT say something. We’re all different though. I agree with you though… today, we grieve… tomorrow we move forward and work together as one. Thanks for taking the time to comment.

  16. Brittany says 11.9.16

    seriously thank you. i feel like america just slapped me on the ass and told me to get back in the kitchen. i wanted to wake up and be able to tell my infant daughter she could be president someday but instead… this happened.

    xo, brittany
    http://www.notablob.com

  17. Lauren says 11.9.16

    As a woman who voted for Trump, I can’t imagine sobbing, hiding, or leaving the country if Clinton had been elected. It all seems a bit much. Who you elect as your local Congressman/Congress woman & Senator are equally as important as the President in regards to creating and implementing the law. There is a reason for checks and balances.

    If it brings you any comfort, DT stepped on a lot of Republican toes throughout this whole process. Many of them will vote against his ideas, policies, etc.

    I do appreciate your honesty in this post and throughout your blog. I’ve had many of my favorite bloggers delete comments because I said I was voting for Trump (literally those words exactly, no hate or any nasty words involved). I’m hoping you’ll accept me as a long time reader even though I voted for him 🙂

    I look forward to the post that was meant for today. You always recommend great products. Enjoy your trip!

    • “As a woman who voted for Trump, I can’t imagine sobbing, hiding, or leaving the country if Clinton had been elected. ” Well, of course you wouldn’t have. You may not have liked Clinton, but she’s not a hateful bigot who has already set off a global financial crisis and is poised to do a lot worse. there’s a reason people are despondant today. donald trump is NOT normal.

    • graceatwood says 11.9.16

      Hi Lauren,
      Thank you for your comment. I would never delete your comment; especially given that you wrote it so nicely. I think we can agree to respectfully disagree in this case.
      Best,
      Grace

    • Rosa says 11.9.16

      I am deeply, deeply concerned about women who voted for Trump. Why? (This is a serious question, because I really don’t understand it.)

      • Lauren says 11.9.16

        Hi Rosa,

        I know plenty of women who voted for him. If I had a way to contact you I’d go into more details as to my reasons. I’d rather not do it here on Grace’s blog.

        • Jessica says 11.9.16

          It’s okay, Lauren. You voted…this is a democracy. We may not always like the outcome, but that is what we get. I may not agree with what you are saying, but I will fight til the death for your right to say it…or something like that. You don’t need to defend yourself.

  18. Nelle says 11.9.16

    Thanks for your post, it is exactly what I am feeling today, and it’s hard to be optimistic about the future because it is a little scary about what it might hold. Thanks for the pause and have a safe and fun trip.

  19. Denise says 11.9.16

    I woke up at 3:49 a.m., checked my phone, and broke into tears which very nearly turned into sobs.

    I’m sad, scared, and disgusted. I don’t know what to do.

    I’m off social media for now, except Instagram, and the news. I’m going to write, read a good book, and practice self care.

    Thank you for your post.

  20. Ashley says 11.9.16

    I have followed your blog for 5 years and today I have to cut ties. Yes you are entitled to post whatever you want on your blog, but as someone who voted for trump, I found this to be so offensive. It’s normal to be sad your side didn’t win, but to publicly bash the other side and therefore his supporters was unnecessary.

    • byyyyyeeeeee

    • graceatwood says 11.9.16

      Ashley, I’m truly sorry if this post offended you. I’m fully aware that hate goes both ways and strived to share my own view in a way that wasn’t offensive. I’m sad to see you go, but wish you the best.

    • Bets says 11.9.16

      Respect your views Grace, but I’m struggling and dont understand the grief. I don’t agree with Trump’s crude behavior and unfortunately that seems to continue to exist predominantly amongst males in our society. However, I don’t agree to support Hillary because of this and the fact she’s a female. She’s a criminal. If you and I did same, we’d be in jail. You can’t pick up an item without it saying made in China. Enough is enough. Time for change and tax tariffs, etc. Our citizens can’t get jobs out of college. Look at the heroine epidemic. I commend Donald for his courage and ability to push the envelope regardless of hurt feelings/critisicm to do what he feels is right thing for our country. He defied odds with his campaign and showed true leadership. I also love Ivanka and think we’re in great hands and she’ll do great things for women. For first time ever I look forward to the future and feel hopeful. We may not have broken glass ceiling last night, but it’s only a reminder for each of us to serve as chislers in being strong, kind, and impactful women.

    • Cy says 11.10.16

      It’s very sad that you saw this as bashing. I’m puzzled why any Trump supporter would be upset today. Live your truth.

  21. Leah says 11.9.16

    Thanks for sharing this Grace. I share your feelings of devastation. It was so hard to get out of bed today. I appreciate you sharing this alternative post instead of what you originally planned.

  22. Emily says 11.9.16

    Thanks for sharing…and I don’t mind that you’re crossing over into somewhat political territory…silence is compliance and I think we all need to speak up more!

    “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”
    – Martin Luther King, Jr.

  23. Chelsea says 11.9.16

    Grace-I just want to say this is why I love you/your blog. Thank you for being real. I know not being real is an accusation that gets thrown at bloggers a lot, but I never forget there’s a human creating the content here.

  24. Kristen says 11.9.16

    thanks for this post.

    enjoy mexico. I just got back from mexico city and rivera maya. it’s a beautiful country full of happy an uplifting people.

  25. Theodora says 11.9.16

    Well-said, and classy <3

  26. Gina says 11.9.16

    Thank you. This was the exact post that I needed to read today. I share your sadness.

  27. Ash and Shelbs says 11.9.16

    Agreed and well said. We are struggling with the same feelings this morning.

    http://astoldbyashandshelbs.com/well-fuck/

  28. Cory says 11.9.16

    Grace – thank you for this. This was the perfect thing to post today.

  29. Carly says 11.9.16

    You said it so well, Grace. I for one appreciate an honest “pause” from your regularly scheduled content to reflect. It does feel difficult to go on with life as normal, whatever that might mean for each of us in our daily work life. I completely understand the predicament you find yourself in with posting bright and colorful content. I hope writing your thoughts down lent some relief to the anxiety and now with some mental and physical distance you’re able to breathe easier, at least for a brief trip, to soak in the beautiful culture of a country you love traveling to. I’ll look forward to taking solace in bright colors from your trip once I’m too exhausted to read anymore about this election 🙂

  30. Paige says 11.9.16

    Grace, thank you so much for putting yourself out there and expressing your feelings on here. I truly admire the bloggers and influencers like yourself who can do so gracefully, despite all of the negative criticism you are so often faced with when you operate within social media. I think its important that you can use your blog to share these emotions, and I would hope readers can respect your views and sympathize for those of us who feel truly hurt by last nights events. Very jealous of your trip to Mexico, I hope it is relaxing and a good escape for a few days. Can’t wait to see your posts <3

  31. So many of us are feeling the same this morning, Grace. Thanks for acknowledging this monumentally horrible outcome and putting our feelings into words.

  32. Sarah says 11.9.16

    Thank you. This was exactly what I needed to read after last night.

  33. Katie C says 11.9.16

    Wonderful post and great sentiment. We must move forward together. After a night of crying and shock and shame that this could happen, you are right, one foot in front of the other.

  34. Valerie DiStefano says 11.9.16

    Thank you Grace for expressing your feelings which I appreciate since I am viewing the next four years with trepidation. I also thank all of the ladies who have commented their feelings. Hopefully we can all find a way to come together, and approach the next four years with grace and elegance. I am praying for guidance of our great nation.

  35. Mallory says 11.9.16

    Grace, thank you so much for posting this today. When I checked out your blog a few minutes ago, I was actually nervous that you’d fail to share your thoughts on the election- and that I’d see a beauty or fashion post (I love them, I do! But you’re so right in acknowledging that today is most certainly not the day..). Thank you for being honest, for being real, and for being someone who your followers continue to admire. I’m a high school teacher, and was so nervous walking in to work today. What would I tell my students? How do I even respond to this nightmare when I am personally at a loss for words? I am with you 100%- we must practice tolerance, love one another, look past our flaws and HUG EVERYONE! Thank you thank you thank you! xxx, Mallory in Florida (SO EMBARRASSING, I KNOW)

  36. Elizabeth says 11.9.16

    I heart you, Grace!

  37. mai says 11.9.16

    thank you for this post. <3

  38. O says 11.9.16

    Thank you for this. I wholeheartedly agree and commend you for speaking out. Yesterday I was disappointed to see nearly every blogger I follow neglect to say a word/post about the election. Bloggers are in a unique position because they have a public platform — typically targeted to young females who should be voting regardless of political party. To not share any encouragement about getting out to the polls to vote (without getting political or disclosing preference) seems like a misuse of positioning. With that said, I respect you more than I did before for your pause. I have always found you to be one of the more, if not most relatable blogger I follow.

  39. Cy says 11.9.16

    Thank you Grace. I’m still in shock and I can’t stop crying. It seems most of the world is grieving with us. I’m still hoping for a miracle in some way. For now I’m choosing love and kindness.

  40. thank you for this beautiful post. i’m right there with you, grace. i feel like i’m living in a nightmare and i can’t wake up. i’m depressed, lost, heartbroken. this is so beyond horrible.

  41. BSDH says 11.9.16

    Sending you lots of love today. Well said and enjoy your break. Sometimes we all need a little time out.

  42. Summer says 11.9.16

    Good for you for writing this.

  43. Amel says 11.9.16

    I don’t think I’ve ever posted on a blog before but thank you! I know it’s an American election but after a year and a half of racist rhetoric showing up on my timeline, I started to believe you all became immune to it. I know I never felt it when I lived in America. Like you, I don’t like to post my political views, but sometimes it’s hard to stay neautral when you see racism being received so proudly by people you lived with, loved, and came to think of as family.
    Thanks again, big hugs from over in Bahrain.

    • graceatwood says 11.9.16

      Aw Amel – it is so nice to hear from you! Thanks for reading – and commenting. Big hug back from NYC (Well, LA as I’m presently writing this from LAX). XOXO

  44. Emily Hines says 11.9.16

    I feel the same way. Thanks for sharing Grace.

  45. Randee says 11.9.16

    Beautiful thoughts. Thank you for the pause today…I appreciate you and it helps to know we’re in this together.

  46. Caroline says 11.9.16

    Beautifully written. I too am reeling in the saddness, for myself as a woman, and for minorities as a whole. Kind thoughts to everyone, and let us all hope for the best.

  47. abby says 11.9.16

    Thank you so much for your post. So well said. Also devastated and so sad. It is hearing and reading from others that gives me hope!

  48. Claire says 11.9.16

    Thanks for posting this today Grace! We love following you and your pretty shoes and beauty buys, but sometimes everything isn’t perfect! Love that you keep in real!! We have hope for the country and that love and peace will win! Have fun on your trip!

  49. Sarah says 11.9.16

    Great post, Grace.

    I’ve too have been sick to my stomach over this election and I honestly thought I would feel relief when it was over no matter the outcome. But relief certainly hasn’t come. I’m sure part of it is the utter shock that the outcome was completely different than anyone ever expected. This was certainly an election to remember and a stark reminder that things can change at any minute.

    But the part that kept me up all night with tears in my eyes is that at the end of the day, when given the choice between a QUALIFIED WOMAN and completely UNQUALFIED (shouldn’t that have been a deal breaker in the first place?), misogynistic, racist, homophobic man – 50% of the country and the majority of the electoral vote decided Donald Trump was the better candidate. That is what is so disheartening to me. And it makes me lose faith in the people of our country. Trump won fair and square – and all that tells me is that I have little in common with half the voters in America. And I am so sad for us…

    I was never going to elect Hillary solely because she’s is a woman – I was voting for her because most of her politics align with mine, and I trust that she was qualified and had the best interest of our country and all of it’s people in the forefront of her platform. But I have to say – I had gotten so used to and excited about the idea of a woman president. After all these years, don’t women deserve that? Haven’t we waited patiently long enough?

    Apparently not. And her losing the election – based I can only assume partially on her gender – is once again, so so so disheartening.

    But moving forward, all any of us can do is continue to fight for what we believe in… Continue to educate ourselves… And we have no other choice than to put faith in the new President of the United States. He’s here to stay (for at least four years) so we have to put some trust in him that he will surround himself with people who do know what they’re doing. And I can only hope that me, you, and all the other grieving Democrats were wrong about Donald Trump – and that he’ll surprise us in the best of ways. I suppose stranger things have happened.

    Okay, rant over.

  50. Andi says 11.9.16

    You literally just became my favorite blogger period! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for this post. I have been crying for 24 hours straight and I needed this.

    • graceatwood says 11.10.16

      That is so sweet, Andi. I hope your week gets a little better. Today was a day to grieve. Tomorrow will be better. xx

  51. Jean Mason says 11.9.16

    Well said Grace. Proud to be your aunt. xoxo

    • graceatwood says 11.10.16

      love you!

  52. Emma Allen says 11.9.16

    love you grace

    • graceatwood says 11.10.16

      love you too friend 🙂

  53. Grace, thanks for speaking up because like you, so many of us are speechless. I feel like I’m part of a bad nightmare. I’m part of the minority and I’ve never truly felt like I’ve never had a place … until now. I thought I knew the world. I thought we were all okay with diversity and the changes, but apparently not. I don’t know what else to say but I do agree that we do need to take this historic event one day at a time. It is up to us to be kinder, more graceful, more forgiving. Jessika / beautybyjessika.com

  54. Logan says 11.9.16

    I really appreciated this post Grace. I am a Republican woman and even I was shocked with the outcome. I also understand people’s questions of “How did this happen?” After researching and watching the news intently Trump was able to win because he focused a lot on the lower class, blue collar workers and the rural communities that the Clinton campaign didn’t put in their forefront. According to the results many counties in swing states that were filled with these lower class workers who are also not as educated, voted Blue in the last two elections but voted Red this year after being, for lack of a better term, forgotten by the Obama administration. They can’t pay the bills, their jobs security is wavering, and they can’t afford ObamaCare premiums. Hopefully that helps anyone better understand how this happened (it sure helped me!).

    Although we may differ in our political beliefs I’ll still be a reader because I believe that it is always okay to respectively disagree with someone as long as kindness and openness is present. And in times of great division it’s amazing what small acts of kindness and respect can do to heal a situation.

    xoxo Logan

    • graceatwood says 11.10.16

      This is really really helpful – thank you for taking the time to explain. 🙂

  55. Chase says 11.9.16

    Thank you, Grace. I admit that I read blogs like yours for the escapism. I am an older reader and I have always admired your strength of character, willingness to laugh at yourself, and the happiness that you transmit via your postings. Please know that you now have a reader for life. Today’s posting was thoughtful, and incredibly classy. Please ignore readers who cannot tolerate an honest opinion. Best wishes, and hugs!

  56. Magda says 11.9.16

    I live in London and I have been visiting America every year for the last few years. It’s such a beautiful country full of amazing and friendly people. I am Polish and I think Americans and Poles have a lot in common, i.e. we are both very patriotic nations.
    I was very sad to hear the news this morning. Just like I was sad when I found out about British people’s decision to leave the European Union. A lot of people in the UK who voted to leave the EU have admitted afterwards that they did not fully understand what they were voting for/they did it because they did not think it would happen/some of them did not understand what the EU was/they did it as a joke/they did it based on incorrect information etc. But it’s too late now and the damage is done. To make things worse, since then there have been many serious hate crime incidents against Polish people in the UK (someone was even killed by a group of teenagers because he was heard speaking Polish). It now seems acceptable to be violent towards immigrants because of Brexit.
    Let’s just hope people in America know what they have signed up for and it’s not going to be that bad.
    We can all just laugh now at all this because what else can we do? The internet has been doing a great job mocking the whole situation, I have seen plenty of articles like “Relieved Britain no longer biggest f**k-up of 2016 – Britain has woken up releived to find its idiotic act of self-harm earlier this year is now a piffling historical footnote” 🙂
    But on a serious note, I love America and my thoughts are with all of you today.

    xxx

  57. Annie says 11.9.16

    Hi Grace,

    I too am a big fan and 5+ year dedicated daily reader. However, I disagree with your post. I understand this is your blog and platform to say whatever you choose, but I really DO prefer to visit fashion blogs and think about fashion. The news is crazy and aggressive and when I try to click away from all that for a break and get surprise “More Politics,” I’m bummed. I did vote Trump. I’m not uneducated. I’m not racist. I am pro my own gender. I have my reasons for voting the way I did, which I feel should be respected. It’s unfortunate that we can’t just have fun together as women over something fun like the this site, without negative and divisive discourse about issues that cannot really be discussed thoroughly on the site. I’m completely prepared to get killed in the comments. It’s a lot more trendy to say you cried all day, but over half the nation didn’t and we all deserve respect.

    • Anonymous says 11.9.16

      Secretary Clinton won the popular vote so no – “half the nation” is wrong.

    • Hes says 11.9.16

      Hi, Annie,

      I didn’t vote for Donald Trump, but I understand why many, including yourself, did. I’d like to think that we all want the same thing in essence, but differ in the means. That’s what I’m holding on to today. I was actually glad that Grace mentioned this on her blog – it’s a scary and exciting point for our country, and I was glad to have her share her view point.

      I cried today, not because it was trendy but because I feel genuine fear at what the future may bring. I don’t deny that Mr. Trump has good qualities to him, but I found when I was making my decision that his beliefs concerning other religions, other ethnicities, and immigrants were just irreconcilable to who I am. I cried because for the first time since I came to the United States as a 6 year old, I have never felt more like a foreigner than I do now.

      I respect your opinions, your vote, and your reasons. Please don’t reduce mine to simply doing what is trendy.

    • graceatwood says 11.10.16

      Hi Annie,

      I just got back to my room from the film festival stuff but I’ve been dying to reply to you all day. First of all, I feel you on wanting a break from politics. I hear you. I had to take Facebook off my phone today because it was just too much. I’m burnt out and I am sorry if I added to that. If you still feel compelled to come back, there will be two new posts tomorrow. My perspective today was that I was so jilted and shocked, I felt like it would be rude/dismissive to post my usual content. I hadn’t thought about the distraction/escape element. It’s nice to hear that people see that, as bloggers are frequently criticized for not expressing their views.

      Secondly, I really hope that my blog isn’t what made you feel disrespected today (and I would hate to see you get killed in the comments – I really don’t like that – I want this to be an open space). I want you to know that I have several very close conservative friends who I respect and admire. I had a long heart to heart about this with one of my (conservative) guy friends and to quote him, he said, “it’s not about someone’s views but more about how they think.” If you pay attention, educate yourself on the issues, and still want to vote Trump I can respect your perspective. I won’t agree with it, but like I said in the post, our differences are what make the world go around.

      I did cry all day but I had my reasons too – it certainly wasn’t because it was trendy. I really appreciate you coming here to voice your criticism/feedback in a thoughtful way. I hope that this one post hasn’t lost you as a reader forever and that you’ll still come back for the fashion and fun.

      At the end of the day I saw today as my day to grieve… as of tomorrow we will all have to do a better job at working harder to understand and support each other… and ultimately come together as a united front. Watching Obama and Hillary’s (and even Trump’s) speeches today gave me a lot more hope.

      xx
      Grace

  58. Catherine Day says 11.9.16

    Thank you for sharing and for voicing your opinion Grace. It’s an opinion and sentiment that I share. I’m trying really hard to share your sense of optimism and have faith in people and the system, but damn it’s pretty hard right now. Sending you and everyone else who feels the same lots of virtual hugs and love.

    xx
    Catherine

  59. Kate says 11.9.16

    Grace, As you can tell by all of the comments, this post has resonated with how many of us are feeling today. You have handled a delicate situation beautifully. You have been honest, genuine and respectful not only in your blog posts, but in your responses to readers’ comments. From one digital/social media professional to another, BRAVO.

  60. Mary says 11.9.16

    Self care and care of others is so important in the wake of this election. Don’t feel like you’re not allowed to take a break if you need one–your devoted followers will still love you 🙂 Thanks for this post, and enjoy your trip!

  61. Joelle says 11.9.16

    Grace- I have been a fan of your blog and your writing for some time now (you always make me miss living in NYC!), and I just wanted to take a moment to say I appreciated your post and don’t personally feel like it was rude or disrespectful or by any means hateful – for either party. But that’s just my opinion. 🙂 This is your site and I believe you have a right to say whatever you want and feel however you feel, and anyone not comfortable with that has the same right to stop reading.

  62. Grace, you described our feelings perfectly. Love (truly) has to be an action word for the next four years and beyond.

  63. Deb says 11.9.16

    Your thoughts echo mine. I am forever grateful to find your light in the midst of this shocking turn of events. Your bravery, to say something, to pause. It means more than you know.

  64. Diana pearl says 11.9.16

    Thank you for writing this. I agree everything feels so small and insignificant compared to this. I can’t stop thinking it’s some sort of dream. Hoping we can move forward as a nation. Enjoy your trip x

  65. Morgan says 11.10.16

    Thank you Grace, this was well-put. Wonderful to see thoughtful commentary like this in the blogger space that’s normally associated with *trivial* things. Enjoy Mexico, it will probably be a welcome break from reality!!

  66. Cy says 11.10.16

    Grace, I am reading again your post and some of the new comments. You wrote a beautiful, gracious post. You were not nasty, insulting, bashing or in anyway hateful. I’m shocked that anyone is accusing you of that here. You were simply stating your grief and your truth. Your feelings. You cannot argue with feelings. They just are. No one can take those away from you. Thank you for being authentic. So few people are.

  67. christina says 11.10.16

    Grace, Thank you so much for being real. Yes, I love your blog for pretty things and fun cocktails and great outfits, but yesterday it was SO refreshing to see that you were human. (and maybe sad and scared like some of us) It was too big of an event to not mention and you handled it with kindness and empathy that should be respected.

  68. Eden says 11.10.16

    Grace, I can’t overstate how relieved I was to read this. You’ve summed up exactly how I feel right now. As uncomfortable as these discussions (or posts) may be, they’re necessary, and it’s brave of you to be open about it. I hope our country can have more of these types of conversations in the months and years to come.

    There’s quite a bit that upset me about the winning candidate, but his bragging about sexually assaulting women is what has stayed with me the most. By electing him to our country’s highest office, half of the U.S. has condoned that behavior… It’s a lot to process.

    I’m taking it one day at a time, and am so glad to read I’m not the only one.

  69. Emily Rose says 11.10.16

    Thank you Grace for your eloquent words. A lifestyle blog documents your life and style… you are always welcome to share your feelings and thoughts whatever they may be.

    Like you and many of your readers,I feel lost as to what is next. I’ve been encouraging friends and family to get involved and make a difference where they can. Volunteer, donate, and be an advocate for your beliefs.

    Locally in NYC check out for great volunteer opportunities: https://www.newyorkcares.org/

    And around the country check out these many organizations (the list continues to grow): http://jezebel.com/a-list-of-pro-women-pro-immigrant-pro-earth-anti-big-1788752078

  70. Kathryn says 11.10.16

    Thank you Grace. We needed this post.

  71. Chloe says 11.11.16

    Grace,

    Thank you so much for taking the time to write about your feelings. I have been in absolute knots since Tuesday night as well. As I’ve told many people I feel like I am going through the five stages of grief. Thank you for putting your thoughts out there as I think it is so important that we express them! Praying for our beautiful country and all of us. 🙂

    • graceatwood says 11.13.16

      Thank you so much Chloe. I know how you feel – I have felt as though someone died! Praying, too. Xx

  72. Charlotte says 11.11.16

    Grace, I’m just now reading through your post fully, and while I’ve hopped on and off your site through the years, you have really touched a lot of us with your kind, deeply feeling words.

    Regardless of our political allegiance, you’ve eloquently expressed the complex process understanding any of us have to go through when something we’ve fought for is not achieved, regardless of our “side.”

    I’m a big, big fan. Thank you.

    • graceatwood says 11.13.16

      Aw thank you for your kind words, Charlotte!!! I hope you had a great weekend – truly appreciate the comment.

  73. Cait says 11.11.16

    Thank you for posting this, Grace. Sending love your way.

  74. Fiona says 11.11.16

    Grace, again, thank you for posting this. I also live in New York and appreciate the effort and time full and part time bloggers put into their work. As I follow a number of New York based (and California) bloggers, I’ve found it increasingly hard this week to notice no change in what is posted. You stated more than once above that it is not your “job” to post anything political, but I do believe that the platform you hold is important. This is not just some political event, this is something far greater, with an impact that can and will affect this country for years to come. So thank you for acknowledging the events of this week, it means a lot.

  75. Clare says 11.11.16

    Just wanted to add my voice saying thanks for posting. I believe it a right and good thing to express your opinion on politics in a thoughtful, considerate way. It doesn’t matter if this is usually a space for fashion and beauty. It’s your space and you weren’t ugly or hurtful or divisive. I really appreciate you taking the time to do this.

  76. Cathy says 11.11.16

    Thank you for this post. I know that it is difficult for someone in your position to speak out and it is much appreciated. And for those of us who live in areas that don’t have that many like -minded people, it makes us not feel so isolated.

  77. Noemi says 11.12.16

    Grace, if you haven’t written a post like this, I probably would have been disappointed. And it’s ironic (let’s say it this way) that the supporters of a man who has been so politically incorrect now take it so bad that you’re a democrat. He insulted every human being that is not like him and his supporters applauded him but you’re not entitled to have an opinion…
    Me, I don’t live in US, but I’m very concerned about our planet and environment. I still hope for a miracle.

  78. Cindy says 11.14.16

    I am also unsubscribing from your webpage. I did not vote for Trump but I feel that your words were bashing those that didn’t vote for Clinton. I just can’t believe the protests, etc going on. What is wrong with people these days. Treat everyone, and I mean everyone with kindness, respect and tolerance. Good bye.

    • graceatwood says 11.14.16

      Wow Cindy – it’s like you didn’t even read my post. I started to write a longer comment defending myself but I can’t even talk about politics right now – I’m exhausted. A lot of nasty things are being said about conservatives, and there IS bashing going on… but I am not one of those people.

      All the best,
      Grace

  79. Ashley Mungiguerra says 11.14.16

    I feel the exact same way, and I am so glad you put it into words! It was nearly impossible for me to come into work that day, especially since (almost) all my coworkers were equally devastated. It sucks right now, but just like you said, we have to keep going. Thank you for sharing!!

  80. JT says 11.16.16

    I too am absolutely heart broken. It has been a week and I still can’t get over it. Hence the reason I am responding so late. I couldn’t even bear reading my usual blogs and whatnot. It seemed so incongruous to everything that was going on.

    I also appreciate your grace in responding to readers who seem angry at the way you feel/voted. I will never understand the sentiment of “I won. Why can’t you just be happy for me?”

    • graceatwood says 11.16.16

      Thanks JT – I know what you mean and how you feel. I haven’t been able to reply to all the kind comments here, but am so appreciative. Xx